In this "Timeless Truths" segment: When we're unwilling to confess our sins, our hearts grow hard and calloused. But when we humbly confess our sins to God and a trusted spiritual leader, the power of the enemy will be broken off of our lives.

Host: Ken Larkin has joined me in the studio. Ken is a counselor for the Residential Program here at Pure Life Ministries. Ken, we got a question in that unfortunately is not all that uncommon. It's from a young man who is involved in his church. He's a worship leader who has been giving over to pornography. And, from the natural perspective, we can certainly understand he's afraid to tell anyone. He may be having thoughts like, “What if I tell someone? I might lose my job. It might be humiliating.” But he is asking, what should I do? What kind of counsel would you give this young man?

Ken: Well, the first thing I would do is take him to the Bible. There's a precious Proverb I'd like to share with him. Proverbs 28:13 (NKJV) says: “He who covers his sin will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.” And if you really want to be free from your pornography addiction, it's absolutely essential that you do confess to the Lord. But besides that, you have to confess to another individual. And I would recommend that he confesses this to his pastor as soon as possible.

Host: Well, you've counseled a number of men in this area. What is some of the danger of not confessing this? What happens in our inside world when we know we're in sin and the Holy Spirit's convicting us, but we don't respond to that conviction.

Ken: It becomes easy to get into a cycle of failure and defeat when you're living in the darkness of hidden sin. You're in your own little world and you can find any reason to justify your sin. And what usually happens is if you're not willing to confess to another individual, your heart just grows harder. You start crossing boundaries that you never thought you would, and you actually end up going deeper into your sin.

Host: And really, the unwillingness to confess your sin is a reflection of the fact that you don't want to give up your sin. Also, the reality is that if you're in a good solid church and particularly if you're in a leadership position and you're involved in sin, you're probably going to be asked to step away for some time. Talk about the benefit of that.

Ken: Well, the benefit is that first of all, if you're living in sin, you shouldn't be in any type of leadership position to begin with. So, you're getting yourself out of that position of leading worship and what's happening is now you're coming under the godly counsel of your pastor and other leaderships. So, now you're having someone else come alongside you to actually aid you to get free from your sin. You're not in this battle alone anymore. You have prayer support; you have godly counsel and godly leadership. They can help you in your struggle and your fight to be free. And the verse I would share in regard to that is found in James. “Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16, 1984 NIV)

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Host: I know we've mentioned this in a previous discussion, but it's worth bringing up again in a situation like this. I can speak from personal testimony that when you're in a position where when the truth comes out, other people might be hurt or you might lose a job or position, the enemy is always there to give you 100 reasons why you shouldn't confess it. But we do want to caution that particularly for someone who is in leadership, they need to go to their leadership to confess not to someone who's under their authority.

Ken: That is correct. And really, the enemy of our soul thrives on secrecy and deception. And he would love to have you keep this thing in secret and for you to continue to deceive others. Because his goal is to keep you bound to your sin. So, the first thing you need to do is get your sin out into the light and that will break the devil's power off of your life. Bringing things into the light is part of your step to freedom. It is essential.

Host: And there is mercy available to those who are truly willing to repent. Repentance is a gift. God wants to give us that gift of repentance. But I do want to say also that if you're out there listening and you're in this position, frankly, it just takes courage to step up and do the right thing. And if you're one of those folks where you just think that you don't have what it takes to bring this into the light, then get before the Lord and say God help me. Help me to be able to do what I don't want to do in my flesh. He'll answer that prayer to help you to do the right thing because he really does want to set you free.